Couples Counseling

Are you experiencing a lack of confidence in your intimate relationship? Do you feel disconnected, unfulfilled, and like you're not enough? Do you and your partner constantly argue about the same issues and feel misunderstood, criticized, and unheard? Knew You Psychotherapy can help. 

Couples counseling is a form of therapy that helps couples navigate the challenges they face in their relationship. Whether it's issues with communication, intimacy, or trust, couples therapy provides a safe and supportive environment where couples can work through their problems and strengthen their relationship.

KYP Therapists teach couples about the importance of emotional safety and how to build it. They also help couples improve their communication skills to turn arguments into healthier discussions, leading to increased emotional and physical intimacy. If you're looking to strengthen your relationship and increase emotional trust, KYP therapists can guide you on this journey.

How does couple's therapy work at Knew You Psychotherapy? 

At Knew You Psychotherapy, couples therapy begins with a free 15-20 minute consultation call with one of our Intake Coordinators. During this call, the intake coordinator will ask about the issues you and your partner are facing, your goals for therapy, and your therapeutic history. This information helps the intake coordinator match you with the therapist that is the best fit for your unique needs and circumstances.

Once you and your partner have been matched with a therapist, you'll begin working through the issues that brought you to therapy.

Therapeutic Approach 

Knew You Psychotherapy uses the Gottman approach, which is an evidence-based approach to couples therapy that has been around since the 1980s. This approach includes a variety of therapeutic interventions and techniques that help couples build stronger relationships. The Gottman approach is based on the idea that couples need to create a strong foundation of friendship and emotional safety in order to build a healthy and thriving relationship. Therapists at Knew You Psychotherapy help couples build this foundation by teaching them how to communicate effectively, resolve conflicts in a healthy way, and create a sense of shared meaning in their relationship.

One of the key aspects of the Gottman approach is the concept of the "Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse." These are four negative communication patterns that can be destructive to a relationship: criticism, contempt, defensiveness, and stonewalling. Therapists at Knew You Psychotherapy help couples identify these patterns and replace them with more positive and productive ways of communicating.

Another important aspect of the Gottman approach is the concept of "love maps." Love maps refer to the knowledge that each partner has about the other's inner world, including their likes and dislikes, hopes and dreams, fears and anxieties, and so on. Therapists at Knew You Psychotherapy help couples build their love maps by encouraging them to ask each other questions and actively listen to each other's answers.

In addition to teaching couples how to communicate effectively and build emotional safety, therapists at Knew You Psychotherapy also help couples identify how childhood wounds may be impacting their relationship. Childhood wounds can include experiences of trauma, neglect, or emotional abuse, and they can have a lasting impact on a person's ability to form healthy relationships. By helping couples identify and heal these wounds, therapists at Knew You Psychotherapy can help couples build a stronger and more resilient relationship.

As a result of KYP's approach we help couples create a happy, healthy, and thriving relationship.

Common Fears about attending couples therapy

1. Fear of Being Blamed: One common fear is that the therapist will take sides or blame one partner for the issues in the relationship. It's important for therapists to create a safe and non-judgmental space where both partners can feel heard and validated. Therapists at Knew You Psychotherapy use a collaborative approach where both partners are encouraged to share their perspectives, and the therapist works to understand each person's experience.
2. Fear of Being Vulnerable: Couples therapy requires individuals to be open and vulnerable about their emotions and experiences. This can be scary, especially if individuals are not used to sharing their feelings with their partner or others. Therapists at Knew You Psychotherapy create a safe and supportive environment where individuals can feel comfortable expressing themselves without fear of judgment.
3. Fear of Change: Another common fear is that couples therapy will lead to change, which can be scary for some individuals. This fear may be related to the uncertainty of what the change will look like or the fear of losing something important. It's important for therapists to help individuals and couples understand that change can be a positive thing and that the therapist is there to help support them through the process.
4. Fear of Failure: Individuals may also have a fear of failure, or the belief that therapy won't work and that they will still have the same problems in their relationship. It's important to acknowledge that therapy is not a magic fix, and that it requires commitment and effort from both partners. However, therapists at Knew You Psychotherapy work collaboratively with couples to identify goals and develop a treatment plan that is tailored to their specific needs.

At Knew You Psychotherapy, our therapists understand the fears and concerns that individuals may have about attending couples therapy. They create a safe and non-judgmental environment where both partners can feel heard and validated. They work collaboratively with couples to develop a treatment plan that is tailored to their specific needs and goals, and they provide support and guidance throughout the therapeutic process.

Get Started with Couples Therapy Today!

At Knew You Psychotherapy, our therapists are highly trained and experienced in couples therapy, and we use evidence-based approaches like the Gottman approach to help couples build stronger relationships. If you're ready to start your journey towards a healthier, happier relationship, schedule your free consultation today and take the first step towards a more fulfilling and meaningful connection with your partner.